She isn't afraid to speak her mind and she has the support (clique) to back her up so very few people argue with her and a lot of people agree with her. I personally think she is narrow minded and a bit selfish.
Her post was about a colleague of hers that was complaining about her husband being away for a week or so on business and how it was so hard on her to deal with everything, including the kids. The reason it wasn't/isn't okay for this colleague to vent is because she isn't a military wife. See, if you are just a wife and a mother who's husband travels frequently or infrequently you are not allowed to complain about it. Your husband isn't gone for months or years at a time. He isn't risking his life for our country. You aren't a single parent for months or years at a time. You just don't understand it. It isn't the same thing. You have no right to bitch! Or do you?
Sure I realize there is a difference in military travel vs business travel. I do get that it normally doesn't last as long for a business man as it does for a military man. But I'm pretty sure going into the relationship/marriage that these wives knew in advance what they were getting themselves into. If they didn't know in advance I would think such a life changing decision would have been something that was discussed and decided on together, as husband and wife and most likely before children were even a factor. They knew exactly what they were getting into, and they are accustomed to that lifestyle.
I'm "just a wife" and I'm accustomed to my lifestyle too. I'm used to having my husband come home at 5pm and offer to help with our kids, or help get dinner made, or help get kids bathed and homework done. That's the life that I agreed to and accepted 8 years and 5 kids ago. Business travel wasn't ever something we had to discuss before marriage or kids, it didn't come until much later and when it did... we didn't have much of a choice if we wanted to keep our income, home, cars, and lifestyle. It was just something we had to accept and deal with.
So, I may not have a clue what it's like to be a military wife but I'm guessing a military wife doesn't have a clue what it's like being just a wife either.
I know, I know... their husbands are risking their lives for our country. You know what, my husband risks his life everyday for his family (which happens to mean a whole lot more to me). Every single time he gets into a car or boards a plane he is putting his life in danger. Maybe it isn't as big of a deal because he isn't wielding a gun and defending our country but to us, his wife and kids... it's a pretty big fucking deal!
I don't know who died and made her god... but just because she is a military wife, it doesn't make her hardships more important than anyone else.
Love this post and couldn't agree with you more!! Very nicely said:)!!
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